Happy Mother's Day
As this Mother's Day weekend approaches I would like to wish all the mom's out there, a Happy Mother's Day. This year Mother's Day for me, is going to be different. This will be the first year, that I celebrate this day without mom. Of course, I will wish her a Happy's Mother's Day, but it is not going to be the same as previous years.
When I was younger I would make her gifts. She loved them. Homemade cards, home made presents. And sometimes if I had money from birthdays or just because I would save the money to go buy her a present. Even though mom's deserve more than one special day, it was a day that I would be able to tell mom "thanks"
She worked so hard for so many years, to provide for me, and teach me to be the person I am today. She did this task, all by herself. She made sacrifices for her personally, to give me what I needed.
In packing up her belongings shortly after she passed away, I came across a box. When I opened it up, I saw al the cards from over the years that I had made for her. On the back she would put the year it was given and then a brief description of the picture. I am guessing those were from the pre-school years, when I had to explain the scribbles.
Our days were special. When I became a mom, we would both wish one another Happy Mother's Day. Just before Mother's Day I would always find a card in the mail from her. She would find cards with encouraging words in them. And of course i would send my usual... funny card. Every now and again I would change it up on her and find a serious card. One made her cry. which was not my intention.
on Mother's Day she would ask, "did the kids do anything special for you?' and I would tell her, what my son made me at school, or describe the flowers in detail that my husband picked out for me.
In the end though, it was not about the special gifts. I would say what a blessing my children are and she would say, "I am so lucky to have a daughter like you. I am very proud of you"
Despite that this year I will not hear the words from her, I know she will be wishing me a Happy Mother's Day.
the Mother/Daughter relationship can be a complex one. I would be lying if I said her and I did not have our share of hard times. When I became an adult, I told her one day, "You know there should be rules for Mother's and daughter;" and she asked, "and what are those rules?" and I said "There can only be one change of life in the house at one time. Menopause and adolesence is not a good combination. It's too many hormones under one roof at one time" She laughed and agreed.
Yes, this year Mother's Day will be different for me. But I know mom would say "Adrienne don't be sad because I am not here." Enjoy and cherish everything you have, and remember all the memories you and I created for 29 years.
Happy Mother's Day mom.
